Accepting people as they are – without asking them to change – is one of the most important things you can do to cultivate positive relationships. It sounds simple, but it’s not. Sometimes – with some people (you can probably think of one or two right now) – it’s much easier said than done. But it’s worth the effort because accepting people as they are can literally change your life.
Managers account for at least 75% of the reasons people give for voluntarily leaving their job (source). That’s great evidence for the old adage: People don’t leave companies; they leave managers.
You can be a different kind of manager – one who makes people want to stay. Cultivating strong, positive relationships with the people you manage may be one of the most powerful things you can do to make a difference in their retention, performance and growth.
No one wants or expects to have a child who is born as a sick baby. I’m certain that my parents were not prepared for the day I was born. I was born two weeks before my due date and while most babies are born crying, I was silent. I was blue. I was not breathing.
A hoard of nurses and doctors surrounded me and began working to save my life. I was barely a few minutes old when I was rolled into the operating room for the first time. I needed emergency life-saving surgery and I needed it now.
In a May 2016 publication by Consumer Reports, the front page reads, “What you don’t know about your doctor could hurt you. Botched surgeries, substance abuse, sexual misconduct – doctors on probation can still practice medicine and they don’t have to tell you. How to make a safe choice.”
Wow, that’s a lot to take in all at once and having been a burn patient who spent five years recovering physically from a nasty electrical accident and many more on a psychological level, I can tell you that magazine cover scares the daylights out of me.
It is entirely possible to be the kind of manager who accomplishes business objectives and earns promotions without making a positive difference in your employees’ lives.
If you aspire to be that kind of manager, you may want to stop reading now.