I have the pleasure of working with a collaborative group of consultants who regularly share best practices and challenging questions. Recently I posted my response to one of their tough questions: What do you do when you feel your hackles rising? Today I’m posting their helpful responses to this tough question I tackled recently with a friend:
Mothers with children of a certain age often pass on this pearl of wisdom. My mother did:
Don’t get married thinking you’re going to change those things you don’t like about your partner. Marry as is and consider any change a bonus.
Managers account for at least 75% of the reasons people give for voluntarily leaving their job (source). That’s great evidence for the old adage: People don’t leave companies; they leave managers.
You can be a different kind of manager – one who makes people want to stay. Cultivating strong, positive relationships with the people you manage may be one of the most powerful things you can do to make a difference in their retention, performance and growth.
Accepting people as they are – without asking them to change – is one of the most important things you can do to cultivate positive relationships. It sounds simple, but it’s not. Sometimes – with some people (you can probably think of one or two right now) – it’s much easier said than done. But it’s worth the effort because accepting people as they are can literally change your life.
In a May 2016 publication by Consumer Reports, the front page reads, “What you don’t know about your doctor could hurt you. Botched surgeries, substance abuse, sexual misconduct – doctors on probation can still practice medicine and they don’t have to tell you. How to make a safe choice.”
Wow, that’s a lot to take in all at once and having been a burn patient who spent five years recovering physically from a nasty electrical accident and many more on a psychological level, I can tell you that magazine cover scares the daylights out of me.